Ed. note: Gayle Hilligoss returns to ECC after not writing for a few months and it is great to have her back. This article is so packed with good advice, I cut it into two parts. Take time to think through and apply what she says--change is constant today and this advice in your heart will keep you prepared. Your pastor leaves.
A new pastor arrives. Staff members move or come onboard. Software is upgraded. Computers crash. You gain additional responsibilities. Another assistant is hired. The church moves into a new building. Some members of the church are in turmoil. New programs are started. A birthday brings challenges. Marriage, divorce, a birth or a death causes a transition. A tragedy hits close to home. These are just some of the changes ministry assistants have faced during the past year. Regardless of the type of change affecting you, consider these strategies for managing transition. Each can be adapted to fit whatever change you are experiencing—personal or professional.
• Acknowledge that change is constant and need not be viewed as bad. Review your attitude; is your first instinct when thinking about new circumstances a negative one? Initiate a positive change by simply deciding to look for the good in any transition. See your new situation as an opportunity for growth.
• Resolve to learn from the experience. Rather than being swept up in runaway emotions that may overcome others, stay calm. Assess your strengths; identify skills you already have that will help you deal with your new situation. Then determine what new skills would be helpful and make plans to acquire those skills. Call on your past successes and failures; put those lessons to work and share them with others who may not embrace change as well as you.
• Share any misgivings with someone who has been in your shoes. Ask for insight and suggestions. Likewise, when someone is facing a circumstance you have already experienced, be willing to answer questions and give support. Mutual encouragement helps everyone do better in unfamiliar territory. Knowing someone else has hurdled what may seem an impossible obstacle instills courage.
• Keep events in perspective. There is change and then there is CHANGE. Be careful not to let either take over your life. Don’t allow your conversations to be monopolized by the present challenge.
• Stay flexible. Take the initiative by constantly stretching your comfort zone; learn new skills, take courses, meet new people, try different experiences, take calculated risks. Even small adventures are beneficial; take the long route home, try a new hairstyle, read an unknown author, ad lib an untried recipe. Stretch and enjoy!
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